Raise your hand if you feel like a failure in comparison to the standard set through women you see in pageantry today!!! A woman's value as a role model does not lie within her talent alone. I think Kira presented something of worth Sunday night. She let young girls and women all over the country know that you are talented even if you don't have the opportunity or ability to be classically trained in voice, dance, etc. She let women everywhere know it is GOOD to be your genuine self and let your quirks shine!
I'm so disappointed in everyone who can't see that and instead pour their negative thoughts toward this outcome all over social media. Are we not gracious to one another? Are we not looking at the bigger picture? Are we not seeing the whole woman? She is more than her talent. We as women are more than our pointed toes. We are not perfect. If we are holding each other to this perfect standard we are all participating in the perpetuation of perfectionism! We want every woman to be the perfect kind of talented and the perfect kind of fit and the perfect kind of beautiful. What are we teaching our young women? That they are only talented if they can sing and dance or play the piano? Are we teaching them they are only beautiful and "fit" of they have a 4 inch thigh gap and perfectly toned quads and biceps? I'm all about having standards but the filth being thrown at Miss America just proves that we have some seriously flawed ways of thinking.
I'm realizing that it's not just men who have perpetuated this perfection idealism. It's the women also. Why are we, as women, turning on one another expecting every woman to fit into this perfect box of "beauty" and "talent"? It is so sad that women are being torn down by other women.
I also completely understand that society expects the judges scores to reflect talent in the scoring. My whole point is that Kira might have earned more actual talent points through the genuine realness of what she performed. Who says singing and using a cup as a percussive instrument isn't talent? Have you ever tried to do it? What Kira earned points for is all up to the eye of the beholder. Is it possible that the judges were looking for a talent that is relatable to young girls around America? Is it possible they were impressed by her? This isn't to take away from the standards of talent and training of women around the world or diminish the ability to sing a high F or dance as one with the air. Don't go ripping yourself or your child out of dance classes. But you SHOULD check your motives behind placing your child or yourself in dance or vocal lessons. What exactly are you trying to cultivate?
Kira's work history has also been brought into question. Questioning this and applying work history to one's worth and ability to be a role model to women everywhere, religious or not, is getting into sketchy territory. Are we so quick to judge? Does anyone but Kira know her motives behind where she chooses to work. I know even the places considered to be the most immoral still need light to shine there. I just don't even think this should be issue. We should not judge and disqualify someone based on their beliefs or choices. God has the ability to use anyone in whichever way he chooses.
The attitudes and words spoken toward this young lady warrant some serious repentance. Those of us bad mouthing each other are only ruining our witness as Christians. Through our behavior and how we carry ourselves we all lead others in one of two directions - toward Christ or away from Christ. Are you walking in love? Are you setting an example that would lead others to come to know the love of the Father? I hope and pray that we begin to encourage and pray for one another, walking humbly and lifting others up. I pray that we begin to see each other beyond our limited sight, thinking and preconceived notions. I pray that we love one another and do unto others as we would want done to us.
"Do unto others and you would have them do unto you." Luke 6:31
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye." Matthew 7:1-5
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know you are my disciples, if you love another." John 13:34-35